Happy New Year!
2020 has been the most challenging year for all of us and it’s definitely given me my share of tribulations. But, I don’t want to dwell on the negatives of this year. Instead, I have also gained some valuable lessons from this year:
- Your mental health is just as important as your physical health. It’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to cry and seek help. Always make your mental health a priority and take time for yourself to discover what truly sparks joy for you. In my case, traveling is my therapy. Although I could not travel far this year, I was able to make new experiences closer to home and relive my trips through my vacation photos.
- Your plans will not always work out or go as planned. It’s like the saying, ‘if you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.’ I’m pretty sure I gave God quite a big chuckle with my plans. My husband and I had planned in 2020 to relocate and venture out on our own somewhere else. We were also supposed to travel to London and Edinburgh back in April; visit Highclere Castle and do some sightseeing. Obviously, the trip was cancelled and we stayed put in Kentucky for now. All’s well that ends well. I suppose I’ll have to leave it in God’s hands for now.
- Having a 3 – 6 months (or more) of expenses in your savings account is very important. I’m a big believer in Dave Ramsey and the Baby Steps. If life throws you some rotten lemons, you will at least be able to keep a roof over your head and food on the table for a while until you can straighten things out.
- Your actions can affect someone else’s health and life. Especially in a pandemic. Covid-19 is no joke and too many people have died who could have been alive today to see the new year. Please continue to social distance and wear a mask.
- Relationships are a two-way street (whether it’s romantic, with family, friends or work) and boundaries should be respected by both parties. Don’t be afraid to speak up when your boundaries are crossed or let anyone minimize your feelings if you feel uncomfortable. I get it, it’s not easy, especially if it’s someone you care about who has disrespected you.
- Challenging times will always reveal your true friends. My best friends have stayed close to me and been supportive for me even though they all live far away.
- Taking a break from your busy lifestyle and getting some quiet time can be very beneficial for your mind and soul. My friend always says ‘please take comfort in silence’ and there’s definitely some truth in that. This year has been a constant reflection and discovery of who I am. Though I agree, the quarantine is getting to be too long.
- Being open-minded and empathetic to people who are different from you. You might learn something new or gain understanding of a different perspective.
- Dental procedures are very expensive even if you have dental insurance. Use an electric toothbrush and floss regularly. I learned this the hard way.
- Lastly, but not the least. Be unapologetically you.
With all the lessons I have gained, I am also grateful for a lot of things. I am thankful:
- That I am still employed with my company and had the opportunity to work from home.
- That I can pay my bills/rent, keep a roof over my head and food on the table.
- That my close friends and family are safe and healthy.
- For Kentucky’s governor. I am glad I was in Kentucky during this pandemic as Kentucky is one of the few U.S states that has been managing the pandemic well since the shut downs began in March.
- For our scientists and the rapid development of the Covid-19 vaccine.
- For all the healthcare frontline and essential workers.
- For the significant number of people, especially people of color, who came out to vote in the November election.
- For my corgis, Gatsby and Daisy. They loved spending 24/7 at home with us!
- For my childfree lifestyle.
Hooray, we survived 2020! I wish you all the best and have a wonderful 2021!
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